When I first found out I was pregnant in my late 20s I feared that I would no longer be able to focus on myself and continue to figure out who I am. Like most people, I had spent my college years and early twenties just doing whatever came along, experimenting with clothes and life choices, and trying to figure out what my “life plan” was. I don’t know that I ever figured it out, but having a baby may have actually helped me figure out who I was.
If you think this is going the way of “I love being a mom and I realized that being a mother is the one thing in life I am meant to do”, you will be disappointed. I love being a mom, but it is definitely not everything that I am.
Becoming a mother forced me to get intentional. I lack time, extra money, often energy, and did I mention time!
When it comes to using my clothes to express myself I can’t just buy both the preppy and the sporty look and hope that I’ll wear them both. I can’t get all of the season’s hottest trends every few months and simply donate what I don’t use. Instead, I get focused and figure out what type of clothing makes me feel good and spend my money on great quality base pieces.
I recommend having a few special touches on hand and pick up little accessories if you feel you need to match that season’s color or style trend. Don’t buy it just because it is on sale (as I’ve been known to do).
Check out this recent post from Lindsey at Pinch of Yum for ideas on tracking your wardrobe to know what you have and build a closet full of great base pieces.
The time of lazy weekends and free evenings are gone, but my hobbies are not. Have a free hour? Instead of spending it on Facebook, be intentional about doing what you love.
For me, that is writing and trying to get my blog on track (you know, follow the professional advice I give all of my clients) or reading. So I always have a pen and small notebook with me. I also use my Evernote app to keep track of ideas, but we all know getting on the phone can lead to a black hole of laziness. So, I avoid the temptation and go old school most of the time.
Working out has been a part of my life for years, but motherhood meant I had to be flexible both physically and mentally. I had to be willing to adjust my workout schedule and intensity based on what the other demands on my time and body are.
However, it is still at the top of my list every day. If that means getting up earlier to fit in a good run before the little one is up than that is what is planned for. I’ve also found that our little one is at the age where she has started doing what we do so I work out in front of her sometimes in the evenings. She has started doing “yoga” with me and loves to jump around.
The days of two-hour unscheduled runs might be gone, but I’m still fitting it all in and have a new cheerleader on my team.
Motherhood can leave you feeling exhausted, distant from the person you use to be, and definitely frazzled, but with a little focus it could be the thing that makes you realize what is important to your being and let go of the rest.